Helping Children Cope through Confrontational Divorce

HelpingChildren Cope through Confrontational Divorce

HelpingChildren Cope through Confrontational Divorce

Itis evident that divorce is stressful, confusing, and sad mostly forchildren. The splitting of the parent saddens them and often feelsuncertain. The parents should help their children by making thedivorce process less painful. It is important that parents shouldprovide stability to enable them cope with divorce.

Amato,P. R. (2000). The ultimate effect of divorce for adults and children.Journal of marriage and family, 62(4), 1269-1287.

Thearticle focuses on the consequences of divorce for both the adultsand children. It is clear that individuals from married and divorcedfamilies tend to differ in terms of well-being. It is evident thatmarital dissolution has the potential to create a considerableturmoil in the lives of people.

Divorceoccurrence benefits some of the individuals and leads other people toexperience temporary decrements in terms of their well-being. It isimportant to understand the contingencies in which a divorce can leadto some of the diverse outcomes for the purpose of the futureresearch.

Arkowitz,H., &amp Lilienfeld, S. O. (2013). Is Divorce Bad for Children?.Scientific American Mind, 24(1), 68-69.

Based on this article, the individuals whose parents divorced whilethey were still young tend to experience challenges when it comes toforming and even sustaining the intimate relationship at adulthood.It is clear that these children of the divorce tend to have a higherdivorce rate in adulthood and develops a poor relationship with anoncustodial father.

Parents may help them in times of difficulty through talking to themconcerning the divorce and its implications. To aid in childadjustment, there is the need to have a post-divorce economicstability and a lot of social support from the adults and even peers.

Bryner,C. L. (2001). Children of divorce. The Journal of the American Boardof Family Practice, 14(3), 201-210.

The article suggests that it is important to develop what is referredto as a non-biased mediator that will lead to assisting the child andparents after divorce through the difficult and life changing time.

Thereare guidelines used when dealing with a confrontational divorce tominimize the long-term effects. For instance, children should beinformed early that the process of divorce is not their fault.

Clarke-Stewart,K., Vandell, D., McCartney, K., Owen, M., &amp Booth, C. (2000).Effects of parental separation and divorce on very young children.Journal of Family Psychology, 14(2), 304-326.

Datafrom the National Institute of Child Health and Human DevelopmentStudy of Early Child Care was analyzed with the aim of exploring thepossible effects of divorce on children particularly in the firstthree years of their life. It was found out that the Children whoare in 2-parent families tend to perform better than those childrenin 1-parent families and this was based on assessments of certainfactors, including cognitive and social abilities, the problembehavior, the attachment security, and the behavior with mother.

Thearticles state that controlling for mothers` education and the familyincome can be used to reduce the existing differences. Thus,children`s psychological developmentaffected by mothers’ income,education level, ethnicity, and childrearing beliefs.

Fagan,P. F., &amp Rector, R. (2000). The effects of divorce on America.World and I, 15(10), 56-61.

Accordingto this article, those children whose parents have divorced often arethe victims of abuse perform very poorly in school. It is clear thatthe divorce of parents tears the fundamental unity of the Americansociety apart. It is thus clear that divorce has had a profoundeffect on the society and only 42 percent of children between 14-18years live in their first marriage families.

Torestore the traditional importance of marriage and to improve thewelfare of these children, a contribution should be made bypoliticians and the civic leaders by making it one of their mostimportant tasks. Funds should be refocused to preserve the marriagesthrough reducing the divorce cases and illegitimacy, and this will begood for children and the entire society.

References

Amato,P. R. (2000). The consequences of divorce for adults and children.Journalof marriage and family,62(4),1269-1287.

Arkowitz,H., &amp Lilienfeld, S. O. (2013). Is Divorce Bad for Children?.ScientificAmerican Mind,24(1),68-69.Bryner,C. L. (2001). Children of divorce. TheJournal of the American Board of Family Practice,14(3),201-210.

Fagan,P. F., &amp Rector, R. (2000). The effects of divorce on America.Worldand I,15(10),56- 61.

Kelly,J. B. (2000). Children`s adjustment in conflicted marriage anddivorce: A decade review of research. Journalof the American Academy of Child &amp Adolescent Psychiatry,39(8), 963-973.